What Love Is Really About Through experience over time one learns that while chemistry creates passion, compatibility is what creates companionship, but one without the other is still missing something... The truest values of all are the spiritual values, and whether someone knows it or not, all their other values are based on their spiritual values, so compatibility in the spiritual values is the best foundation of all for any type of relationship, whether friendship or romance, and all other compatibilities are secondary, and chemistry is like the icing on the cake... So let's say for example that you think carrot cake is better than chocolate cake, it really wouldn't make much of a difference in a relationship, you can have your carrot cake, and I can have my chocolate cake, and everybody's happy (besides everybody knows that chocolate cake is really better anyway! ;)